I’ve been married for almost a month now, which means I’m still a newlywed and basically know nothing about marriage. But I hope this post will be somewhat of an encouragement to you.
Wedding planning came easy for me, surprisingly. Most likely because I was student teaching 40+ hours a week and enrolled in 15 hours of graduate school. Until the week of the wedding (when literally everything went wrong, but God pulled through, obviously) my only stressor was my wedding dress. My wedding dress came in the mail 3 months before my wedding and 4 sizes too big. Long story short, with the entire dress being lace and backless, it was basically reconstructed into a dress that I didn’t even recognize, and 6 fittings (and a lot of what seemed like wasted money) later, my seamstress was able to help me fall back in love with the dress I originally said yes to. Bear with me…this post isn’t just about my dress. It’s about the process of Jesus making us new.
I was bound and determined to come into marriage the perfect wife. Silly me. I surely thought that all of the recipes I pinned on Pinterest, the household tips, and the decorating DIY’s were going to impress my husband. Quickly, I realized that none of this mattered. I learned that my ability to throw some chicken into the crockpot didn’t cover up the fits of anger I have when my husband doesn’t put the toilet seat down. My ability to wipe the counter tops and make the bed each morning didn’t cover up the harsh words I said when my husband’s face cream bleached our brand new sheets. I quickly learned that living with someone (a boy especially) brought out the worst sides of me. Ok, hopefully you get the point.
The point is that nothing makes us pure and new like Jesus does. I’m not a perfect wife. I’ll never be a perfect wife, but I’m confident that the Lord is making me new each day. And he’s doing the same for you. Similar to how my dress had to be completely torn apart, sewn back together, and reconstructed–so do our spirits. It takes time, patience, prayer, and the power of the Holy Spirit in you. But, it does happen. Every day. Every morning.
I am making all things new -Rev 21:5
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming. You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. But now you must also rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lips. Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator. Here there is no Gentile or Jew, circumcised or uncircumcised, barbarian, Scythian, slave or free, but Christ is all, and is in all. Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. -Colossians 3