My friend Taylor and I are studying the fruits of the spirit this summer. First, we read 1 John and learned a ton about love. Right now we are reading Philippians and learning a lot about joy and how adversity cannot shake my joy. However, that’s all for another blog post. Instead, I want to write about a verse in Proverbs that I feel as if many, many people skip over. Just about every Christian girl I know wants to be a Proverbs 31 girl. I’ll admit, I used to claim myself as a Proverbs 31 girl just by the verse, “She is clothed with strength and dignity and she laughs without fear of the future.” (Proverbs 31:25). I think just about every girl can reference that verse. But if that is the only verse that us, Christian girls, take away or take seriously from Proverbs 31, then we are in trouble. Last month, I studied Proverbs 31, and it made me realize how broken and spiritually immature that I am. And, that is really hard for me to admit, and because of that, I am thankful for grace.
I am going to make a commitment to blog about a verse in Proverbs 31 each week for a few weeks. This week, I want to focus on Proverbs 31:12. The context of this passage is talking about a wife with noble character. The verse says, “She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.” Okay yeah, sounds easy, right? If it sounds easy to you, read it again. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
So, what does this mean? If you strive to be a Proverbs 31 woman, or girl/wife with good character, then you should’ve started honoring your husband the second you came out of the womb. Sounds crazy, right? But, it’s not crazy. It’s how Christ intended for it to be, but we have shifted so far from this truth to where hooking up, having sex, etc, is considered normal while saving yourself for marriage is almost unheard of. Don’t get me wrong, this verse is not specifically talking about sex, and I do not want to take it out of context, but purity (emotional and physical) is an example of how women can bring their husbands good and not harm. But thankfully, we serve a God who is full of grace. And because of His grace, all of our mistakes now serve a purpose instead of serving shame.
I made a list in my journal of different ways that I can begin to bring my husband good, and not harm, until I meet him. Some of my items include: speak wisdom, stay emotionally and physically pure, and to be slow to anger. I encourage you to do that, too! It is an easy way to hold yourself accountable while you’re waiting for your husband. And, if you are anything like me, you understand that the wait is hard. But, our willingness to wait reveals the value of the object we are waiting for. How important is it to you to have a Godly husband? If it is important to you, then you must remember that the Godly man that God is preparing for you is probably looking for a Christlike wife, too. I pray that all of my readers reading this will say, “I Do” to becoming a Proverbs 31 woman, regardless of where you are at in life right now. With God, we can start fresh each day.